Comments on: A Stillbirth Story: Losing My Daughter At 39 Weeks, 6 Days Of Pregnancy

By: Erica

Erica — Thu, 10 Aug 2023 20:37:34 +0000

Sending you so much love on Veda’s birthday today. You are an amazing mother to her, then and still now. The love you have for her will never die. Nor will her spirit. She awaits reunification just as much as you do.

By: LCS

LCS — Tue, 18 Oct 2022 22:06:50 +0000

Abbie, your words are so touching. How lucky Veda was to have you as her mother. May you carry her with you in the deepest part of your heart.

My daughter died at 9 months old. I remain her mother, it’s all I have of her. Sending you love.

By: Dana

Dana — Sat, 15 Oct 2022 07:05:35 +0000

Thank you for sharing your story. When my OB could not find a heartbeat I too was in shock. I didn’t even understand what she was saying, because it just seemed so wrong. Your daughter is so loved. She has you and you have her. Say her beautiful name whenever you need to.

I’m not going to start on the Jesus comment because I find it too upsetting to try and wedge a religious angle on your beautiful story but just a reminder- people will say the most bizarre, often unintentionally cruel or confusing things to you when hearing about your grief. I know they did to me. Just know they mean well and they don’t know better. I used to resent the people who told me “everything happens for a reason” and “heaven has another angel” because it did nothing wrong to acknowledge my suffering but I made peace knowing these people, though misguided, cared and had empathy.

By: Chasa

Chasa — Fri, 14 Oct 2022 23:09:23 +0000

Mama Abbie, Thank you for sharing your story. Veda’s story. You both are beautiful.

By: Mari

Mari — Fri, 14 Oct 2022 19:15:59 +0000

Abbie, I am in absolute awe. Thank you for sharing this most intimate vulnerable piece of yourself. Veda will never be forgotten. Your sharing of her story, her being, her strength, and your’s will resonate a long long time with me. So much of love is at the core of life and living. Your’s and Veda’s is blazing a trail around the universe. I am so very grateful to you. Sending much much love, TLC and care to you all. Veda you are such beauty.

By: Anna Bickford

Anna Bickford — Fri, 14 Oct 2022 17:21:23 +0000

I know we don’t know each other at all but I am sitting here balling my eyes out for and with you after reading your story. I’m not even sure how I received this email as I never subscribed to Mother but I was meant to read this. The first child we conceived passed away and I miscarried her at 12 weeks pregnant. Valentine’s Day, when we were going to share with our families that we were pregnant we instead got to share with them that we have a child we will not get to meet this side of Heaven. It’s a pain I had never known, the worst pain I’ve experienced. You’ve been with your baby longer and you got to see her which is such a beautiful thing. I pray that you will allow yourself to grieve fully, in your time. The only way I was able to come to the other side of my grief a whole person was through Jesus and still to this day, is through Jesus. The lover of my soul, and yours. He saved my life and has been with me every step of the way. We had already named our daughter Aliyah Brielle. One day while driving to town it hit me. There are no accidents with God. My daughters name, Aliyah, means “to rise or ascend to God”and that is exactly what she did. Her middle name, Brielle, means “God is my strength”. He was her strength and mine. There I drove, beholding a rainbow, and crying out to the beauty of God in the midst of my grief and I started to mend. Our babies are safe with the Lord. I pray that you will find the peace that surpasses all understanding that He provides to all those who repent, believe, love, and trust in Him. That’s how I was able to begin again and carry on to this day. Not forgetting or minimizing our daughter, but honoring her short lived life. Her siblings will surely know about her, her family knows about her, and I am not shy about bringing up, with joy, her life with others. We now have a son, he is 16 months old and his name is Mikaiah. A wonderful joy in our lives. His name means “Who is like God?” Praying for you. Lots of love. ?